I was thinking about this line from the song "Breakeven" by The Script today, and I couldn't help but realize how true it is. When you break up in a relationship, or lose a friendship, or just go through a really hard time, your heart breaks. But it doesn't break straight through the middle. Bits and pieces break off. Your heart becomes somewhat like a puzzle. Every piece may or may not be there, but it is difficult to put all together.
When starting a new relationship, especially after getting out of a hard one, it's seems impossible to give yourself away, to get rid of the walls that have been built up. You know your heart is broken, and you don't want to break it more than needed. You feel lost, confused, and you don't know what step to take next. You want love and acceptance in your life, but you don't know if that is possible without your heart breaking.
What needs to be done? Work on mending your heart yourself. Try to feel better, and try to love yourself, despite what you have gone through. Before you can allow someone in, you need to try to mend your heart as best as you can. Your heart may not be fully mended ever, but I am sure that you can get pretty darn close.
When you are ready for that next step, remember that the person you allow past those walls needs to understand that you have gone through a lot. They need to know that your heart is broken, and although it may not be fully mended, you want them in. You need to show them that they are important enough to hold your heart in their hands, and that they need to treat you with respect, love, and honesty. That they can't break it more and that you want them to show patience towards you.
" 'Cause when a heart breaks, no, it don't break even." Everyone suffers a broken heart, no matter what circumstance brings it about. Remember to be patient with people, to show them that they don't need to get better any time soon. They can take their time, and can always come to you if they need you.
Patience, love, and understanding will help mend that broken heart. It may not mend it all the way, but it will help. So show it towards everyone going through a hard time. Actually, show it to everyone, regardless if they are going through a hard time or not, or if they are your best friend or your worst enemy. You never know whose life can be blessed with a little bit of those three things.